Loving others · How-to guides
How to Love Your Enemies
Loving your enemies is one of the hardest things Jesus asks, and one of the most freeing. It does not mean approving of harm; it means refusing to let hatred have the last word.
Hear what Jesus actually commands
This is not optional advice. Jesus plainly calls us to love, bless, and do good to those who wrong us.
“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you.”Matthew 5:44, King James Version
Pray for them
It is hard to hate someone you sincerely pray for. Bringing your enemy to God begins to soften your own heart.
“Pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”Matthew 5:44, King James Version
Refuse to repay evil with evil
Do not return wrong for wrong. Break the cycle by responding with good rather than revenge.
“Recompense to no man evil for evil ... overcome evil with good.”Romans 12:17, 21, King James Version
Leave justice to God
You do not have to settle the score. Hand the wrong to God, who judges rightly, and let go of the burden of vengeance.
“Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”Romans 12:19, King James Version
Choose concrete acts of good
Love is a decision that shows in action, a kind word, a practical help, when it is undeserved.
“If thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink.”Romans 12:20, King James Version
The One who makes this possible: Jesus
Jesus did not just teach this; He lived it. From the cross, He prayed for the very people killing Him: Father, forgive them. He loved us while we were still His enemies. The strength to love yours does not come from within; it comes from the One who first loved you, and He gives it freely.
Love is meant to be shared. You can find people near you, share the good news, or pray for the one on your heart.
Common questions
How can I love someone who has hurt me?
Start by praying for them, refusing to repay evil with evil, and leaving justice to God rather than seeking revenge. Choose concrete acts of good when you can. This strength comes from Jesus, who loved us while we were still His enemies.
Does loving my enemies mean I have to accept abuse?
No. Loving your enemies means willing their good and refusing hatred, not enabling harm or staying in danger. You can forgive and pray for someone while still setting healthy boundaries and seeking safety and help when needed.